LUBRICANT 101

Best to use on the opening of the Vacurect vacuum erection device.

Thick, easy to apply, water-based lubricant. Recommended: Ansell Lifestyles Silky Smooth.


Best for menopause and long lasting pleasure (without any ingredients likely to irritate)

High quality silicone-based lubricant. Recommended: Pjur Med or Uberlube


“I want a good first-time, all-rounder, to use with condoms and silicone products.

Recommended: Sliquid Silk Hybrid


Best to use over the penis shaft for extra pleasure before inserting into Vacurect VED

Recommended: Uberlube (will not damage the silicone openings)

Best to use with all silicone-based products (such as vibrators)

Recommended: Sliquid Silk Hybrid or YES water-based

LUBE RULES 101

  • Only use water-based lube with silicone-based products (or, a hybrid of 12% silicone and water-based).

  • Do not use oil-based lube with latex condoms. (non-latex condoms: Skyn)

  • All other lubricants (water-based and silicone-based) are safe with condoms.

  • Water-based lubricant is likely to ‘dry out’ and need reapplying often. You can also use saliva to ‘bring it out’ again.

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“I feel a bit ashamed of using lubricant... why is that?”

I research the barriers to conversations around sexuality within healthcare. Therefore, I get asked questions along the lines of ‘why the shame and stigma?’ a lot. I have two pennies to throw into this conversation :

Lubricant is a WANT not a NEED (but there’s no TV Show about that...)

Lubricant is often branded by the media as a ‘replacer’ for wetness or for clinical medical examination. Not very fun, and therefore understandably not that appealing. It is rare that you see a TV series where somebody reaches for lubricant simply because they enjoy the added sensation of lubricant. However, that is how lubricants (those that are designed for pleasure - see brands above) are intended to be used. When you are considering why you find the idea of using lubricant shameful, think about what messages and beliefs you carry about lubricant, and I encourage you to challenge them.

We are suffering from a shame hangover...

Australia is still recovering from a history of intentional sexual shaming. It therefore makes a great deal of sense that you would be picking up on that feeling. Keep in mind, the messages we were told about ‘sex’ at various points in history were intended to achieve a variety of motives. However, these had nothing to do with pleasure or what we now know about human health and happiness. The motives were sometimes political, religious, reproductive, classist and sexist. I could get on a soapbox and go on, but again, I simply encourage you to question the motives behind various ideas you have heard about sex. And remember that luckily, this is 2018. Sex for the sake of pleasure and connection, along with the education to help you achieve this, is a Human Right. See the World Health Organisation (2006) : www.who.int/reproductivehealth/topics/sexual_health/sh_definitions/en

Furthermore, research shows that consensual pleasurable sex is fundamental for your overall health and well being. Regular sexual activity for the purpose of pleasure (this includes masturbation) has been shown to boost the immune system. Considering people who have orgasms frequently take less sick days, your company should really be paying for your lubricant!