A Touchy Subject: Lubricant Guide.


“I’ve used up the Vacurect Lube that came with the vacuum device - What is best lube to use now?”

Ansell Lifestyles Silky Smooth. WHY? It’s available at most chemists and supermarkets for a good price. I’ve you’re pumping regularly, you’re going to go through a lot of the stuff. Function is what matters most with this type of lubricant. This one is thick, stays put, does the job.

What lubricant is best for a couple navigating erections aids as well as the side effects of menopause?

Uberlube WHY? It prevents any friction or soreness without getting sticky or drying up quickly. This is also best if you have found water-based or supermarket purchased irritating in the past. It is only made of silicone so it is free or preservatives, hormones, or glycerine.

What is the best lubricant to use with silicone-based vibrators?

Sliquid Silk Hybrid or YES water-based. These lubricants are body-safe and feel smooth to the touch. It is advised to use only water-based or ‘hybrid’ (usually 12% silicone formula) lubricants with silicone products.


  • Only use water-based lube with silicone-based products (or, a hybrid: 12% silicone and water-based).

  • Do not use oil-based lube with latex condoms (easily available non-latex condoms: Skyn).

  • All other lubricants (water-based and silicone-based) are safe with condoms.

  • Water-based lubricant is likely to ‘dry out’ as it is absorbed into the body. You can use saliva to ‘bring it out’ again.


I research the barriers to conversations around sexuality within healthcare. Therefore, I get asked questions along the lines of ‘why the shame and stigma?’ a lot. I have two pennies to throw into this conversation :

Lubricant is a WANT not a NEED (but there’s no TV Show about that...)

Lubricant is often branded by the media as a ‘replacer’ for wetness or for clinical medical examination. Not very fun, and therefore understandably not that appealing. It is rare that you see a TV series where somebody reaches for lubricant simply because they enjoy the added sensation of lubricant. However, that is how lubricants (those that are designed for pleasure - see brands above) are intended to be used. When you are considering why you find the idea of using lubricant shameful, think about what messages and beliefs you carry about lubricant, and I encourage you to challenge them.

We are suffering from a sexual shame hangover...

Australia is still recovering from a history of intentional sexual shaming. It therefore makes a great deal of sense that you would be picking up on that feeling. Keep in mind the intention of messages about sex at various points in history. The intentions rarely had nothing to do with what we now know about the importance of sex for pleasure within human health and happiness. So much so that sex for the sake of pleasure and connection, along with the education to help you achieve this, is classed as a universal Human Right. See the World Health Organisation (2006) for this definition : www.who.int/reproductivehealth/topics/sexual_health/sh_definitions/en

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