Sex without erections
What you need to know:
This course has focused on you getting a great erection using a vacuum device… but let’s not forget the bigger picture, erection is not the same as sex. And I would be a pretty dismal sexuality researcher if I did not also share what I’ve learnt about sexuality in the context of no erections.
A lot of men (find a way of showing this) have great sex without erections. For some men, the journey into life without erections brings a different focus to their sex life that is more enjoyable. A couple of studies on sex after prostate cancer have shown this.
Asking the question: ‘what is sex or what could our sex life be?’ is the best first question to ask. Take it back to basics. If you were going to take a pizza back to basics you would nail a calprese
Questions I get asked:
The problem is without an erection the menu has gone from here… to here.
We’ve never done anything other than penetrative intercourse before.
What to do next:
Values Exercise to start conversations about what sex is and can be.
Menu of sexual dishes you could try, circle what you are interested in trying together.
Sensate Focus, taking erections off the table and going back to touch.
Book- Joan Price: Sex after 50.