“Victoria has made the journey easy, positive and given hope even when it seemed hopeless”
- 70 years old, unilateral nerve sparing robotic prostatectomy.
Before I met Victoria, I was struggling with the post operation erection recovery issues that come with the removal of the prostate gland. I was close to dropping rehab because of issues with poor results, difficulties in getting rehab equipment to work effectively for me and just the repetitious nature of the rehab program.
Victoria was recommended to me by my post prostate operation contact nurse shortly after I had the robotic procedure. Over 12 months we had fortnightly phone consultations.
Having Victoria to bounce results off, discuss the next direction I should take, find the right equipment, obtain advice from and discuss issues with, was the reason I continued with my rehab.
At my age (70 years) the research indicated that the chances of recovery of full erection function was somewhere between 30% and 60% within a 2 to 4 year time frame. I recovered erection function well inside 12 months.
As a man I found it a very a difficult subject to discuss openly with anyone, Victoria managed to break those walls down so that I had someone to talk to. She gave me the hope and confidence to continue in what is an extremely difficult time. Victoria has made the journey easy, positive and given hope even when it seemed hopeless.
“I wasn't sure people could understand what I was going through”
- 47 years old, bilateral nerve sparing robotic prostatectomy.
I had a radical prostatectomy in early May 2017. Initial recovery was fairly brutal physically, and I was initially focused just on the cancer removal, and subsequent recuperation. After about 8 weeks though, as my physical status returned, I found that parts of me were missing : the lack of erections was making me feel not myself. I was uneasy, unbalanced, and my usual response to my wife was just not there, in the physical sense. I felt truly lost. It was like a friend that was no longer returning your calls, or in actuality hanging up on you! It really made me feel unwell, despondent, and ultimately depressed. I just honestly didn't feel like a man.
On recommendation from my urology nurse in Brisbane, I arranged a Skype call with Victoria.
Victoria was wonderful and understanding (I wasn't sure people could understand what I was going through), and gave me hope that this is natural and recovery can indeed be successful with time, planning, and effort. I am slowly getting my head around this being possibly a long term recovery process, and that ultimately, the result may be the same as it is now. But it is something to pursue and as a man dig deep to follow and wait: that I may feel whole again one day, regardless of the result.
“We have built a new stronger sexual relationship”
- 56 years old, wife of a man with prostate cancer.
My husband was diagnosed with Prostate Cancer in May 2016 and subsequently underwent Radical Robotic Prostatectomy. Our Surgeon told us that my husband would suffer Erectile Dysfunction and said, “he has less than 50% chance of having any form of erection within two years of surgery”. At the age of 56 and about to “smell the roses” this, on top of the Prostate Cancer diagnosis, was very difficult to accept and we were determined to do something about it. We contacted Victoria upon recommendation from our psychologist.
I do not know where we would be if we had not had our consultations with Victoria - probably where sadly so many couples faced with this dreadful disease are! Wives who no longer have any form of sexual activity with their husbands. Husbands who are going through terrible de-masculinity issues and cannot communicate with their wives.
With Victoria’s guidance and support, we have built a new stronger sexual relationship and although it is different from the past, we have been on this journey together and feel closer and care even more about how each of us feel than before. We have embraced the “new” and encourage others faced with similar challenges to seek Victoria’s help.